10 simple ways to connect with your child ~ Week 3


Welcome to week three of my series ~ 10 Simple Ways to Connect with your Child. If you’re joining us for the first time ~ welcome! I hope you’ll join in the conversations here and on Facebook.

WEEK 3 – SAY YES

At least once each day this week, say yes. Yes I will read you a story. Yes I will get down on the floor and play lego/trains/tea party with you. Yes I will come outside and push you on the swing. Yes I will answer your question. Instead of “In just a second honey” or “Right after I finish up here” or “I’m very busy right now, maybe a bit later”, let’s try “Yes, right now”. Then put down the phone, ignore the piles of washing, forget about the emails, or the floor that needs to be swept, or the trash that needs to be taken out, and just be with your child. All those other things will wait. Our children may not.

Show them they matter. Be available.

Below are some links to other articles about making yourself  available for your children. You’ll also find lots more links on my Pinterest boardInspiring blog posts and parenting inspiration“.

  • I’ve written before about being mindful to slow down and say yes more often in my post “The Power of Yes“.
  • In her post Dear “In a Minute” Mom,  Rachel at Finding Joy writes about being mindful of all the laters, hold ons and in a minutes.

If you are joining us for the first time ~ welcome! Here is the link for WEEK 1 and WEEK 2. Each week for the next ten weeks, I’ll be sharing one simple idea that you can implement today to foster a more connected relationship with your child. It is my hope that by the end of the ten weeks we will be more present for our children, and more mindful of the type of parent we want to be. With each idea being so simple, and with only one intention to focus on each week, I know we can do this. Will you join me?

If this is your first time visiting One Perfect Day – welcome! If you like what you have found, please join us on our Facebook page. We are always sharing new ideas to play, learn, create and explore.

Here are the links for all 10 weeks of this series.
Week 1See them.
Week 2Listen.
Week 3Say yes.
Week 4Begin each day with play.
Week 5Come from a place of love.
Week 6Believe in them.
Week 7Let them be themselves.
Week 8Switch off, tune in.
Week 9Be a real person. Share yourself.
Week 10Be kind to yourself. You are enough.

 


 

Comments
  1. Love this! And yes, so true. I find when my boys know I am listening to them and say “YES, I will come play with you,” they beam with love. I am so happy you are doing these posts, for I think no matter how good of parents we are, we all need to be reminded of the simple things we can do to connect!

    • Thanks Davina! You can just see their face light up can’t yo, when you say yes right way. It’s magic.

  2. I cannot tell you how much I love your series! This one really resonates with me. To me, living “Hands Free” is saying YES to these beautiful requests of connection with the people we love. I find that by saying YES — even for a few minutes, my whole outlook on life changes. Suddenly what I thought was “so important” isn’t anymore … what IS important is that precious human being standing in front of me.

    You are providing an incredible resource here … a gift, actually … I am grateful to have found you and will continue to tell people about what you are doing here. Thank you!!

    • Thank you for all your support and kind words – it means so much to me. I have so much to thank you for. Too much to fit into this comment. I’ll be sending an email later this evening.

      • I am back from my digital vacation and had a chance to share week 3′s challenge on my page. I know it will resonate with others as it did me. I actually had a YES vacation! What a glorious week of connection it was! I am striving to keep saying YES this week and actually as long as they still ask me to join them! THANK YOU, my friend!

  3. Rachel

    I love your blog, and these posts are really inspiring me to look at the way i am parenting at the moment.
    I came looking for ways to change as i feel i haven’t been as present and attentive as i should and i can see my children suffering because if it, and these ideas are helping me to reconnect and ‘find the love’.
    My children thank you!

    • Hi Rachel. Thank you for your lovely comment. It is amazing isn’t it how such seemingly small actions can have such a huge effect on our children and our relationship with them. I’m so happy to know that this series is helping you feel more connected with your children. Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

  4. I loooooooooooove this! Recently I read somewhere that unless you have a really really good reason for saying No, you should say Yes instead. I am watching what comes out of my mouth so much more now? Why was I saying no in the first place? B/c I was feeling lazy? Tired? Crabby? Usually those are the reasons No comes out, not b/c I really NEED to say No.

    Love this so much Ness.

    • Thank you Melissa! x That’s it exactly! What you’re describing there is something I plan on focusing on in a later week of the series. Just letting go. Thinking a situation through – does this really matter? Is it hurting anyone? Do I really have to get upset about this or could I just breathe and go with it? Thanks so much for commenting. It means a lot to me.

  5. I love this Ness, and I try to do this but it is wonderful to have a reminder :-) And it is amazing how important it is to remember this, and looking at their little faces as you say ‘yes’ and engage with them in the moment is the biggest reward. Beautiful – what a brilliant series!!

    • Seeing that reaction on their faces just makes it easier and easier doesn’t it? From the very first “yes” you can just see their eyes light up. Thanks so much for your kind words about the series.

  6. What a fabulous post. It’s important to remember something as simple as saying ‘yes’… not
    in a minute or do it yourself first or maybe later or very soon. Yes is yes and means so much to our little ones. Thanks for the reminder! :)

  7. It sounds so easy when written down doesn’t it?

    I actually find it easy to say ‘yes’ to my daughter. I love spending time with her. I couldn’t think of much else I’d rather do.

    I just wish those pesky chores would stop getting in the way. Some days I say ‘yes’ so much that the house literally feels like it’s falling down around me. Then I feel like I spend the whole day saying ‘no’ while I try to reclaim some order.

    Must find a balance I think.

  8. I love this post Ness…not sure how i missed it as i am loving this series! I was just thinking about the yes thing today with the girls and made myself stop thinking about all that i ‘needed’ to get done and just sat and played on the floor with them…we sang so many songs and then i got some beautiful cuddles…thank you for reminding us of the important and special moments to cherish x

  9. So simple and yet so, so important. Thank you for the reminder :)

  10. Yes, yes, yes!! Love this post Ness and I am enjoying following along with your series! It is a great reminder and so important to show an interest in our childrens lives and just ‘be’ with them. The washing, emails, etc, etc can wait! Look forward to week 4! :)

  11. What a lovely post and a lovely idea. I think it’s great to remind us of this as it is so easy to say, ‘in a minute’ and before you know it, the day’s gotten away from you. Love it!

  12. Ali @ At home with Ali

    I love your series, this is a great reminder for me. I am going to do this today.

  13. I have been trying so hard to be mindful of this! It is hard sometimes when there is so much on my plate. Thanks for a beautiful reminder. I just said, “yes” and have to go play now! :)

  14. This is gorgeous….connecting with my kids is something I strive to do…and it often doesn’t take extra time, but just investing in the moments as they happen. Love this.

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